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Jyoti Jha’s book ‘Aanandi’ depicts the convergence of Literature and Cinema

 In a live session ‘Impact of Literature on Bollywood’, Jyoti Jha, an HR-turned-Author discussed various aspects of literature and its influence on Bollywood. The panel consisted of famous TV actor Rahul Tomar and the session was hosted by RJ Jyoti Singh at the prestigious platform of Literia Insight.



In the ever-evolving and changing society where women are found holding high positions and ranks in various organizations and establishments; on the other hand, even today they are in a constant struggle towards finding their rightful place in the societal setup. Be it for their independence, self-reliance, education, or safety, there is a continuous battle against the resident evils of society. Standing against the patriarchal system which has been going on for centuries, and grappling through shameful acts of violence, dowry system, torture, inequality, etc., the scenario has not changed much over the decades for women.



In such a situation, trying to bring positive changes in society through writing seems a challenging effort. However, literature has always played a pivotal role in bringing fresh perspectives to thinking, conveying newer viewpoints to people, and connecting people with the untouched links of the society through literary landscapes and contributions of litterateurs. One such story ‘Aanandi’, by author Jyoti Jha, promises positivity in terms of women empowerment, education, and finding opportunity amidst adversity. The story emerges from a rural environment and shows the potential to bring a positive message to people in society.

While the literature has the power to convey positivity to society, the confluence of literature in cinema cannot be ignored. Be it Cinema, Television, or OTT Platforms, these mediums are always on the lookout for good stories and scripts that showcase the potential to impact society and be a guiding force in bringing necessary changes. The story of ‘Aanandi’ is suited for cinema and in the coming days, the book may be seen being adapted to the big screen.

In the session ‘Impact of Literature on Bollywood’, the panellists expressed their views on various aspects of literature, cinema, and their amalgamation. A multifaceted TV Actor, Rahul Tomar who has been associated with TV series like ‘Hamari Wali Good News’, ‘Krishna Chali London’, and ‘Crime Petrol’, conveyed the impact of stories picked up from the grassroots levels and portrayed on big screens. The actor hails from Katni, Madhya Pradesh.

Growing up in Bihar, Jyoti Jha’s childhood has been enriched with literature, and writing for her is a spiritual reflection of her contemplations and self-expression. Jyoti has been associated with the corporates like Infosys and Whirlpool and has contributed to English Literature through her books. Through ‘Aanandi’, the author endeavours to present a positive direction to society. The book is being published by PR Publications.
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THE FRUITS OF OLD AGE


Every age has its own charm but despondently when it comes to old age, our society has taken a few steps backwards and tremendously failed to look at the bright side. When it comes to job opportunities, many so-called good companies slam the doors for experienced & wise people. If the elderly tries to join a new course, apply for a job, join as a club member, visit his/her child’s office, accompany their grandchildren, our society gives stupefying reactions. 

The love and tenderness which a newborn gets, the same is required for our older population but they are woodenly shunned. It’s disgraceful to see the rampant emergence of old age homes in a country that is well known for its morality. A nation wherein the people have a deep reverence for priests, saints and are good at debating over what’s right and what’s wrong but turn gibberish towards the elder population. How one treats the (known/unknown) elder population tells a lot about a person's ethical value. 

Here is the list of reasons which will justify why we need to revamp our modern thinking for our old population


Old Age is an Asset

Whether it is wisdom or experience, elderly people are on the upper edge. I have worked with a 35 y/o employer and 75 y/o employers and realized where more sincerity, maturity, calmness, balance, ethics, and consciousness lie on. It’s not a generalization, but, due to deep focus and attention retention, elderly people have the ability to think more intelligently and ethically. For example, PM Modi, Ratan Tata, Lata Mangeshkar, Usha Soman have proved that age is just a number and are gleefully sharing their blessings with others.

  Some people are young at 80 while others are old at 18

Due to the influence of the virtual world and too many indoor activities, the youth is comparatively less active than it used to be. The elder population is much smarter in managing multifarious tasks as compared to the youth. But the emphasis is always focused on youth which stands for naivety, hasty judgment, and lack of discernment. The biographies of the famous old men and women suggest that they have continued their productive activities into the years well beyond the normal span of life.

 Old age implies one has more wisdom & life experiences

Indeed, age is the dawn of wisdom. Life is short to have bad experiences, and we must learn from the mistakes of others. The elder population is much more involved in the inner world than the outer world, therefore, they have much more to offer. One is more likely to acquire life-related wisdom from their grandparents, elderly family members, teachers, employers, and seniors.

 Old people are much needed

Some employers shut down the doors for the people who are 40+ as the emphasis seems to be on youth. If the employer replaces their shallow thinking and realizes that the elder people are not selling their age, rather willing to share their skills, talents, understanding, and wisdom gathered over the years on the marketplace of life. Whether it is school, college, office, and home, we need old people for their guidance, love, and blessings. We need them more than they need us. It’s our time to help them to welcome the change gracefully.

✔ Old People are young by mind and spirit

Old age is often regarded as a second childhood, but they are not given the same amount of care and admiration as a child. Whether it is in the workplace or at home, society wants to get rid of them. They should not be asked to resign or leave because of their age, as it is the time when they could be more useful in the organization or home. They don’t need your money; they just need some emotional support. They usually don’t react to the tantrums and chaos as they are tapped in their spiritual world and have the ability to think justly and meekly.

 Starting over a new venture

We must not let our older population become the prisoners of society rather we must motivate them to be a producer. It’s never too late to set and start over a new dream or goal. Madame Ernestine Schumann- Heink, reached the pinnacle of her musical success after she became a grandmother. Isaac Newton was hard at work close to 85. Socrates learned to play musical instruments when he was 80 y/o. George Bernard Shaw was active at 90 whereby the artistic quality of his mind had not relaxed from active duty. It’s our obligation to provide the healthiest and peaceful environment to our senior citizens.

 

“Youth is the gift of nature, but age is a work of art”- Stanislaw Jerzy Lec

 

Author’s Information:

Name: Riya Gulati

Designation: Paralegal at Law Offices of Caro Kinsella & Youth Ambassador for the ONE Campaign, Ireland.

Qualifications: LL.M (Intellectual Property & Information Technology) from University College Dublin & BA.LLB from Bharati Vidyapeeth Deemed University, Pune.

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Women’s Emotional Abuse: Everything You Need to Know

POST CREDIT: Badlav Seva Samiti

Domestic abuse is indeed a form of emotional abuse. If you are not physically harmed, you may not believe you are being mistreated. However, emotional, and verbal abuse can have just as devastating short-term and long-term consequences as physical violence.

Emotional abuse can occur at any moment in an individual’s life. Women who are children, teenagers, or adults are all subjected to emotional abuse.

Emotional abuse is any type of abuse that is not physical in origin. It can range from vocal abusive behaviour and continuous criticizing to more subtle techniques like manipulation, intimidation, and a willingness to never be satisfied. It can be seen in multiple ways. Denial, aggression, and minimisation are three typical types of abusive behaviour.

This can be destructive to relationships, and everyone involved. Just because there is no visible scar does not imply the abuse isn't real or that it isn't a serious issue or even a criminal in certain countries.

Since there is no defined term for emotional abuse, it might have a definition that goes beyond psychological abuse and verbal abuse. Humiliating, blaming, and name-calling are just a few examples of verbal abuse that may have an emotional impact on a victim.

Verbal abuse impacts and even damages the victim's self-worth and mental well-being, resulting in an emotionally traumatized victim. The sufferer may suffer from serious psychological effects.

It would also include brainwashing methods, which may also be classified as psychological abuse, but emotional abuse includes manipulating victim's emotions.

The victim may believe that the abuser has influenced their emotions to such an extent that the victim is unable to recognise their own feelings about the issue or issues that the abuser is influencing. As a result, the victim's self-concept and independence are gradually lost.


 

Emotional abuse is sometimes referred to by experts as psychological abuse or "chronic verbal aggression." People who have experienced emotional abuse have poor self-esteem, changes in personality (such as withdrawing themselves from things they like doing), and may even become nervous, suicidal, or depressed.

Emotional abuse can occur unexpectedly. Some abusers may begin by behaving normally and then begin abusing after establishing a connection.

In the beginning of a relationship, some abusers may purposely flood you with affection and attention, including praises and desires to see you frequently.

The abuser frequently attempts to make the person feel deeply attached to them, as though the two of them are “against the world.”


Here are few examples of emotional abuse: 

⚠ Verbally attacking the victim.

⚠ Having control over what the victim has to do and cannot do.

⚠ Keeping personal things from the victim.

⚠ Intentionally causing the person to suffer.

⚠ Made to feel inferior or humiliated.

⚠ Keeping track of the partner's location and time.

⚠ Yelling at her for not having a child/ not having a male child.

⚠ Compelling the victim that she is insane.

⚠ Undermining the victim's self-esteem and/or confidence.

⚠ Making fun of the victim in public or in private.

⚠ Restricting the victim's access to money or other essential assets

⚠ When the abuser tries separating victim from their family and friends.

⚠ Interfering with the partner's ability to work.

Accusations, verbal abuse, name-calling, critiques, and gaslighting undermine a victim's sense of self over time to the point where they can no long see themselves truly.

As a result, the victim may tend to agree with the abuser and develop internal criticism. When this occurs, the majority of victims get stuck in abusive relationship, feeling that they'll never be good enough for anybody else.


How to deal with emotional abuse?

Prioritize yourself: When it concerns your emotional and physical wellness, you must prioritise yourself. Stop trying to please the one who is assaulting you. Take care of your own requirements.

Or do something to encourage you to stay positive and reinforce your identity.

Additionally, make sure you get enough rest and eat nutritious foods. These basic self-care actions can help you cope with the day-to-day difficulties of emotional abuse.

✔ Setting Boundaries 

Tell the abusive individual that they can no long shout at you, call you names, disrespect you, be nasty to you, or do anything else. Then, inform them of the consequences of engaging in this activity.

Tell them, for example, that if they insult you or call you names, the discussion will end, and you will walk out of the room. The important thing is to stick to your principles when it comes to setting boundaries.

Know it’s not your mistake and doesn’t blame yourself: If you've been in an emotionally abusive relationship for a long time, you might think there's something horribly off with you.

However, you are never the issue. Abusing implies making a choice. Stop punishing yourself for something over which you have no power.

✔ Stop fixing your abuser

Regardless of how hard you try; you would never be able to fix an emotional abuser by doing or being better. An abusive individual makes the decision to be abusive.

✔ Avoid Explaining yourself

Do not interact with someone who is abusive. In other terms, if an abuser attempts to create an issue with you, insults you, expects things, or rages with jealously, do not try to explain, comfort their feelings, or ask for forgiveness for something you did not do.

If possible, walk straight away from the situation. Interacting with an abuser simply leads to more harassment and heartbreak. You will never be able to make things right in their eyes, no matter how hard you try. 

✔ Work on ending that relationship

Try moving away from the situation. Dealing with an abuser just increases the pressure and misery. No matter how long it takes, you will never be able to make things right in their eyes.

Depending on your circumstances, you might have to end the relationship. Every case is unique. So, talk to a trusted friend, family member, or counsellor about your thoughts and ideas.

Emotional abuse can have deep impacts, but it can also serve as a starting point to violence and physical abuse.

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